I’ve been reading through another one of John Maxwell’s amazing books, this one, Winning with People, left me writing notes ninety to nothing on my last flight home to share with our leaders on our True Grit Boot Camp .
The High Road Principle is my favorite chapter and one that I hate to say I have been able to really relate to.
What does Maxwell have to say about “High Roaders”? In a nutshell…..
1. They are STEADFAST in their walk on the High Road….meaning, they don’t veer from the path when someone does them dirty for the one thousandth time. Maxwell makes such a good point when he says,
“Nearly anyone can be kind in the face of unkindness every once in a while.” “People who take the high road all the time create momentum. Why? Because responding best today puts them in the best place tomorrow.”
Hmmmmm……..yep. It’s true. How could it not be? Decide to let something go today and keep moving forward, later when you must go to that person and work cordially with them it is MUCH easier to do when you have taken the High road…and don’t think for a moment that you’re not left with the best position just because you didn’t get the last word.
2. High Roaders are servants by choice…not victims.
Ever heard that saying, “Don’t ever mistake my silence for ignorance, calmness for understanding, or kindness for weakness” ?
CHOOSING to take the high road does not make YOU the victim.
3. “High Roaders see their own need for grace, and therefore, they extend it to others.” In other words, there is no telling who may be having to take the high road on your account…so when you choose to take it, remember just as you need grace, you must give it out.
4. “High Roaders bring out the best in themselves.”
So….I know it is a change for some. If you aren’t already on the High Road..how do you get there? Here’s the directions; as Maxwell says, “it’s not the easiest road, but it is the only road that leads to the highest levels of living.”
Oils for the journey that could help? Here are some of my favorites to use throughout the day when I am having to make the extra effort to keep on the High Road. Forgiveness oil on the ear lobe, awaken over the naval, grounding on the bottom of the feet, white angelica across the backs of the shoulders, joy over the heart.
What’s the very best part of taking the High Road? It is a place of surrender..a place where you realize you have no control over the situation and the people around you..but you DO have a choice to make of how you react. “I count all things but loss for the excellency of the knowledge of Christ my Lord for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and to count them but dung, that I may win Christ, and be found in Him, not having mine own righteousness, which is of the law, but that which is of God by faith: THAT I MAY KNOW HIM, and the POWER OF HIS RESURRECTION, and THE FELLOWSHIP OF HIS SUFFERINGS….” Philippians 3:8-10